Why Hate Hurts
hurts everybody. To hate someone is to diminish yourself as well as the
person you hate. Since every human is created in the image of God, to
hate someone is to diminish God and to distort the reality of the universe.
Hate is powerful. Hate is destructive. You will always gain by getting
rid of hate.
Robert Browning wrote a poem called "Soliloquy of a Spanish Cloister"
in which one of the monks looks out of his window and sees a brother monk
whom he hates. The poem is awesome as it begins:
go, my heart's abhorrence!
Water your damned flower-pots, do!
If hate killed men, Brother Lawrence,
God's blood, would not mine kill you!
What? your myrtle-bush wants trimming?
Oh, that rose has prior claims--
Needs its leaden vase filled brimming?
Hell dry you up with its flames!
No amount of protection from the outside world and confined controlled
religious environment can protect anyone from the destructive power of
What do you hate? Yourself, someone who has hurt you, your parents, your
partner, your boss, your special personal vision of God? Hate is just
as inclusive as love. Hate can break out in any human situation that has
lost control. Hate consumes a lot of energy.
Can you spare that much energy?
When logic fails
Four great words can bring hate under control and reverse the fatal course
of hateful thinking: Logical, Objective, Realistic, and Practical. These
four words express the effective use of your brain to be in control of
your own thinking and life and to resist allowing negative emotions and
misinformation to rule your life.
Logic fails whenever abusive misinformed religion convinces you that some
people deserve to be hated and rejected as an abomination to God! This
happens all the time regarding GLBT people and the most devastating results
of self-hate is the self-destructive thinking and actions of GLBT people
themselves. Many multitudes of us live just one step from suicide!
My years of experience in the gay world at every level has taught me clearly
that nobody hates and hurts GLBT people nearly as much as we hate, hurt
and destroy ourselves! I experience the self-destructive forces in myself
every day. I am not immune to being illogical, and neither are you.
To believe even some of the lies and distortions of the facts that the
fundamentalist homophobic "ex-gay" religious establishment dumps on you
is deadly! None of the hate-based religious industry is based on logical,
objective, realistic, practical thinking! Hate against and within GLBT
people is based solidly on misinformation and ignorance. Run! Do not walk!
To the nearest exit and escape from the self-hate that you have been taught
by illogical, unrealistic, impractical religion!
Avoid abusive churches like the plague, because they are the plague!
People of hate write to me every day to tell me I am going to hell for
giving hope and encouragement to GLBT people. I am constantly amazed at
the obscene language and graphic descriptions of "perverted" sex that
some of my hate mail contains. The enemies of the truth about sexual orientation
are just as creative in their destructive hate as were the Nazi, Fascist,
KKK, and biblical tyrants who hated and destroyed multitudes of innocent
people simply because they were "different."
Religion in today's world is the chief sponsor of terrorism and the primary
source of racial, ethnic and culturally based hate.
What can you do?
What can you do to make a difference in this hostile, hate-based world?
You can begin by accepting and loving yourself! You can take the time
and make the effort to learn the facts from reliable sources like those
listed and cited in my web site and book.
You can make a personal commitment to logical, objective, realistic, practical
thinking. Remember the slogan: "High truth for revenue always arouses
suspicion!" Resist listening to and even partially accepting the message
of mass media evangelists and religious personalities. Truth compromised
for the sake of making money is no longer truth!
Political, religious and social extremists over simplify the issues and
generate hate based enthusiasm for their own financial benefit and influence.
Don't listen! Turn off the hypocrites. Walk away. Look the other way.
You donít have to give any attention to the craziness all around you.
You have been liberated by the Spirit of Jesus. Now enjoy your freedom!
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