busive religion cannot produce healthy spirituality. Where Paul used
the term "sound doctrine" or "sound words or teachings," the word
"sound" meant "healthy" and Paul was talking about healthy teachings
that build healthy spirituality. (See Bible references below.)
Extremism, fanaticism, prejudice, ignorance, hypocrisy and a lot of
other unclean spirits produce decay, sickness and death in one's
spiritual life.
Leprosy in the time of Jesus was a term for a great variety of diseases
that caused blemishes and disfigurement. Hypocrisy and abusive religion
also cause spiritual blemishes and disfigurement. Jesus healed both
leprosy and hypocrisy. Jesus gave the gift of health and wholeness by
liberating people from abusive sick religion. We are called to do the
same today.
Sick Religion
Sick religion is like many other forms of human sickness in that the
sufferers of sick religion often do not recognize or admit that they are
sick. They see nothing wrong with the abusive destructive religion that
infects their lives at every level. After all, God is the source of
religion, and how could that be bad? Sick religion teaches people to
deny and to justify the judgmental attitudes and destructive legalistic
religious beliefs and behaviors that afflict most sufferers of sick
religion.
One definition of "health" is "the absence of sickness." Yet many forms
of sick thinking and behavior go under the name of religion. Loss of
emotional control, especially anger, is often denied and masked by being
projected onto other people. When we are sad, we can say, "I am sad."
When we are happy, we can say, "I am happy." But when we are angry, we
say, "You are stupid!"
Dr. Wayne E. Oates in "When Religion Gets Sick" said, "When I use the
word sick, I am referring to a specific functional breakdown. When
religion is sick, it massively hinders the basic functions of life.
Malfunction, then, is the criterion of sickness." He added, "In other
words, the word sick, is not used in some global vague, or moralistic
sense here. It refers to specific situations in which particular people
suffer major failures of functioning in the conduct of their lives
because of religious preoccupations and stumbling blocks."
Health and Wholeness
When Jesus asked the man at the pool if he wanted to get well (John
5:6), the literal meaning of the Greek is: "Do you wish to be made
whole?" Frequently the healings by Jesus are said to make people
"whole." Health and wholeness go together in the teachings and ministry
of Jesus. Jesus ministered to and healed the whole person in all
dimensions of life: the physical, spiritual, mental, emotional, and
relational. Healthy spirituality brings all of life into harmony and
wholeness. As Colossians 1:17 said, "In Jesus Christ all things hold
together."
When the human mind or body is at war within, unhealthy living emerges
and dominates the life of the individual. Internal conflict can be the
attack of cancerous cells against the healthy cells or can be the
schizophrenic attacks of the mind against itself. James 1:8: "A doubled
minded person is unstable in all her/his ways." Soren Kierkegaard wrote
an entire devotional book based on this verse: "Purity of Heart is to
Will One Thing." Kierkegaard saw the solution to double mindedness to
be found in willing only the will of God. He concluded that the only
way one can will one thing is to will the will of God, for if you will
anything else besides the will of God, you are willing many things, not
one.
The Healing Spirit of Jesus
The Spirit of Jesus heals and makes us whole. Sick abusive religion is
the opposite of the Spirit of Jesus. Love is the most powerful healing
force in the world. Love heals and nourishes and never gives up. Love
can even heal abusive sick religion. The love of Jesus did exactly that
during his earthly ministry.
Religion is probably never sicker than when it is based on prejudice and
misinformation and is used by people with low self-esteem to demean and
belittle others in order to make themselves feel superior and more
powerful. The use of religion to put people down and to judge and
condemn those who are already beaten down and rejected by society is the
greatest crime of present day religion in America.
Healthy spirituality based on love and self-acceptance is contagious;
just as sick spirituality based on fear and self-hate is contagious.
Whatever you have is contagious!
Spiritual Healing
Spiritual healing takes place within individuals one at the time.
Spiritual health and healing are not a mass movement with great crowds
and entertaining television performances. Jesus healed people one by
one. Each individual was important to Jesus and each person was heard
and treated in whatever way best fit him or her. Jesus, methods of
healing varied from person to person. There was no special formula that
fits all!
Read the stories in the Gospel according to John in chapters 3 and 4
about Nicodemus the Pharisee who came to Jesus in the middle of the
night for fear that someone might see him and the "Woman at the Well"
who met Jesus alone at the well in the middle of the day, when nobody
else would be there. Notice how some of the most familiar teachings of
Jesus, like John 3:16-17 and John 4:24 are given in the context of
one-on-one conversation with no audience present.
The conversations of Jesus with Nicodemus and with the Woman at the
Well dealt with replacing unhealthy religion with healthy spirituality.
Both Nicodemus and the woman were afflicted with negative spiritual
attitudes and misinformation. Spiritual healing is delayed and often
killed by the negative spirits of legalism, prejudice, ignorance,
hypocrisy, and anger.
Negative People in Your Life
One of the basic steps to recovery from abusive religion is Step 5:
"Avoid Negative People and Churches." Negative attitudes in religion
and in your personality can bring you down and can take everybody you
know on a negative downer just by your gloomy presence, your judgmental
"preaching" and your legalistic attitude.
I know what I am talking about, because for many years I was a
"preacher" and I frequently fall into the abysmal habit of preaching to
somebody I know very well and love very much only to find that I am
vigorously pushing that person away and don't even realize how "preachy"
I have become!
I often suggest that you should get negative people out of your life.
They will bring you down and dampen your enthusiasm for everything that
really matters to you. Have you ever thought that you might be the
negative person that somebody needs to get out of his/her life? It's a
sobering thought, isn't it!
Techniques of Spiritual Health
PRAY. There is no substitute for prayer. A friend in Mexico wrote me
recently to tell me how turning again to prayer had radically changed his
whole life for good. Try prayer: you'll like it! Jesus prayed and
taught his followers to pray. Prayer includes listening. Look at
Philippians 4:6-7 again and take it seriously.
THINK. Use the marvelous brain that God gave you. Think objectively
and logically about your situation and what your options are. Paul
gives a list of very positive things to think about in Philippians 4:8.
"You better think, think, think about the consequences of your actions!"
as the great Aretha Franklin sang in "The Blues Brothers." Think for
yourself, because if you let others do your thinking for you, you aren't
really thinking for yourself, are you? How much of your thinking is
logical, objective, realistic, and practical?
LOVE. I am constantly learning over and over what love really means and
what loves means for me and for my most intimate relationships and
friendships. One characteristic of real love that I have to relearn
over and over is that love "throws a cloak of silence over what is
displeasing in another person." (1 Cor. 13:7). Effective, satisfying
love is a gift from God. We still work hard to manufacture our own
brand of manipulative, controlling, possessive love and then wonder why
it doesn't work at all! Love is generous. Try "giving yourself away"
and see what happens.
BELIEVE. Who do you really trust: God, yourself, special friends, and
perhaps "experts" in everything from science to religion and beyond? A
lot of us have gone through phases in our lives when we trusted nobody,
not even ourselves. What have you believed and trusted that most has
disappointed you? Why did you continue to trust the same doubtful
things over and over again? None of us knows all of the sources of our
unhealthy spirituality or the roots of our positive and negative
impulses. If our spirituality is unhealthy, most of us don't have a
clue of why.
TAKE A GOOD LOOK AT YOURSELF. Socrates said: "The unexamined life is
not worth living." The unexamined faith is not only not worth having,
it is also can be abusive, dangerous and destructive. Every individual
has a spiritual dimension to life. Spirituality can be negative or
positive, healthy or unhealthy, filled with prejudice and anger or
filled with love and compassion.
Why is it so hard for us to take a good, honest objective look at our own
spirituality? Whatever the reason for your neglect of your own
spiritual health, you can take the positive step of getting on with your
life and taking the further positive step of getting negative people out
of your life. Take a good long look at the life and work of Jesus as
the Spirit of Jesus guides your mind and your heart into healthy
positive self-esteem and spiritual wholeness.
I pray that your spiritual life will be a great asset in your healthy
self-acceptance and sense of worth and value to yourself, to others and
to God. My purpose continues to be to help all of us to feel good about
who we are and to quit hurting each other and ourselves.