
Can Bisexuals Be Monogamous?
Dear Rev. Turner:It is clear that the Biblical pattern for sex is life long monogamy. What is a bisexual to do? How can she remain true to what she is and have a life long commitment to only one person when one person, no matter the gender, is after all, only one gender?
Just curious,
Doug
Dear Doug,
Actually, I guess I have always, as a gay male, been a little jealous of the bisexual community. I mean, after all, with their comfort level they
certainly have a much wider and deeper pool of people from which to meet
the "right one".
I don't think it is a just a matter of being true to a "gender". The
issue, it seems to me, is being true to a person. You follow and maintain a
covenant relationship with one person at a time. I might have an eye for
other men, for their bodies or personalities, but my commitment is to the one
for whom I declared my love. I don't think it is any different for a
bisexual. As I said earlier, the gender with whom they make that
commitment could be one of two, while heterosexuals or homosexuals are
limited to just one gender.
God bless,
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